Caley Epstein

Kara Stark Cal was the first second baby for our playgroup and my daughter Samantha was temporarily obsessed with him! We begged Jen to let us babysit him. Then she proceeded to pile him with legos and he didn’t seem to mind! We are so sad Cal is gone and feel for Jon, Jen and Miles. Such an awesome family.

Robert Epstein Cal and Miles, November 2004

Jennifer & Jon Epstein This isn’t the best picture of Cal, but it makes me smile because I think it is a great example of his personality. We knew Cal was a smart kid early on. And he was a kid who knew how to make things happen. Cal went to a co-op preschool, and like many preschools, the teachers there tried to ensure all of the kids felt like they were special, and no one kid got preferential treatment. One week the kids spent a lot of time making instruments, and at the end of the week the kids were to have a parade where they got to play their instruments. To be fair to all of the kids, the ‘parade’ was to be less of a parade, and more of a circle of marching kids, and that’s the way things started. However Cal knew he wanted to be the head of the parade and was clever enough to make that happen. Despite the coaxing of all of the moms and teacher, Cal slowed his marching to a snails pace, and in no time at all he became the leader of the class. I could tell by the grin on his face that he was happy and proud of being able to get his way... and honestly, I was proud of him, too. I will forever be proud of my boy.

Nancy Glassman I remember Caley from 4's AM at Cedar Hill's Cooperative Preschool. He also attended Camp Ireland with my son's Cub Scout Pack the summer of 2009. He had so much personality. Gone too soon. May his memory be a blessing. Jennifer, Jon and Miles I am so terribly sorry for your loss.

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Brennan Kochanowski This may be one of my favorite faces he made + more camping

Brennan Kochanowski Before vs during the triathlon

Megan Greisen I treasure the opportunity to have been Caley’s second grade teacher. He was a quiet leader who always had his attention and eyes on me. Those big, old-soul eyes. He had a way of keeping me calm with his steady and predictable disposition.

Judith Mickelson thanksgiving, laughter and joy and lots of singing and dancing.

Judith Mickelson

Diane Haines Caley went to Bonny Slope Elementary with my daughter Lauren. Here he is at Lauren’s 8th birthday party. Jennifer and I would laugh about how they’d wrestle like dogs. ❤️ to the Epstein family.

Wanda Werstlein Cal was always a happy friendly kid. I remember Cal and Kyle playing in the neighborhood bonding over their love of Legos and Nerf guns. Cal you will be missed.

Eric Edward Heinsen Caley was one of my first friends in Oregon when I moved here in third grade. He was always a spark for something greater in the group and still remember fun times with him at recess. I won’t forget whenever I would head over to his house and spend hours playing. Although we did drift apart through the years there are several moments with Caley that I always carried with me. The world was a better place with Caley in it. Sending you support and prayers during this time Epstein family.

Brennan Kochanowski Kochanowski family rafting trip in Maupin, OR

Brennan Kochanowski No wonder so many of the cousins did theatre

Sabrina Fong There are no words to express our heartbreak for your loss. Thank you for shining a light to the world. We are so grateful to have Caley in our memories. - The Fong Family

Dhruva Sogal Cal was always kind, welcoming, and a good friend. I have many memories of sitting next to him on the school bus in middle school where he made what is often a cold, unwelcoming environment the exact opposite. Whenever he came over for game nights, where he was a fixture he was always as excited about the food as he was for the games. He once apologized for the size of his first serving, and proceeded to eat it all happily while keeping the table laughing tears with his sharp wit. This picture is from one such game night where Cal was as usual the center of fun and conversation. He was an amazing friend and I will miss him. -Dhruva Sogal

Spencer Whipple Cal and I were friends at Bonny Slope for several years and would still see each other throughout high school. I have a lot of memories as a kid of us doing lots of things together, like going to the beach for my birthday, playing video games at his house and playing Magic and basketball together. He was always the life of the party and would invite me to do things that I would not have usually done like playing Magic and going to week long summer camps to Yellowstone. These would end up being some of the best memories I had as a kid. I will miss seeing him.

Todd Smith As a parent volunteer in a handful of Caley’s elementary school classes, one of Caley’s basketball coaches, a parent to one of his childhood pals, and a family friend to the Epsteins, I have nothing but wonderful memories of Caley. An early impression I had of Caley was that he was the kind of kid that knew how to hold court. He had an opinion, needed to share it, and expected others to hear it. And they did. He was a bull in a China shop on the basketball court. He was a wonderfully inclusive friend to my son, Dylan. And he was always respectful and kind, except when he told his parents that I drive too fast. I sit here weeping as think about him being gone. We love you, Caley.

Wayne Hathaway Our family has known Jen and Jon since the early days of Bonny Slope.  In the last 4 years, Jon and I have grown closer.  I loved hearing about Cal's high school and college experiences through Jon.  It was really hard to learn about his passing.  We are grateful that we were invited into Caley's life in the way that we were.  Reading everyone's memories here makes it abundantly clear that Caley's friendship meant a lot to so many people.  -- The Hathaway's

Brennan Kochanowski Caley loving his time camping.

Todd Smith Glad we found these two photos. We are fortunate that these four got to spend their Bonny Slope Elementary years together. When I think of Caley, I think of his mischievous spirit - grateful to have caught him on film making rabbit ears at Dylan's birthday. Love, Christine & Todd

Brennan Kochanowski Cape Lookout camping trip

Laurie Barr Having fun with his cousins at our wedding

Kiersten Kochanowski All the cousins (minus Lauren) at Mark & Laurie’s wedding rehearsal dinner

Gabi Garcia I've done theater with Cal since middle school - here he is gracefully photobombing us after the Wizard of Oz in eighth grade!

Madelyn Wild Grateful to have so many fun visits with the cousins 💜 we’ll miss you Cal

Laurie Barr Hanging with the cousins at the holidays.

Laurie Barr Cal dancing with his cousins and brother at our wedding. He was the fun leader that day. I will always remember him as the boy with the sweetest face and smile ever! He will be missed so much. We love you, Cal. Uncle Mark, Aunt Laurie & Nathan

Laurie Barr Caley having fun with cousins Emma and Jacob in the photo booth at our wedding.

Brennan Kochanowski At Mark and Laurie’s wedding

Dylan Smith Caley was a large part of my elementary school experience, from playing basketball, magic, and plenty of other things. I remember having nerf battles in his house and watching Pirates of the Caribbean in a small closet-like room. However, Caley perhaps had an even greater impact on me after elementary school. Upon graduating, I started going to a middle school where I knew no one. During this time, Caley would consistently invite me over to his house to play games and talk. Although I wasn’t as good at returning the favor, I know that Caley contributed so much to this transition in my life. Even though we were no longer at the same school, it was in large part because of Caley that I was not lonely during this time, and I’ll forever be grateful. He was a really great friend and I will miss him.

Laurie Barr Many summers of family camping trips to Central Oregon

Laurie Barr Caley and Nathan at one of our summer camping trips. I think this was the year they went "missing" for a while. We eventually found them in the bathroom charging their cell phones...contraband on camping trips.

Zoe Hicks I met Cal in sixth grade and grew up with him. Throughout middle school and high school we became close friends and many of my favorite memories include Cal. I remember in middle school he would wear Cal Berkeley shirts because they said his name on it. One of my favorite memories with Cal is when we ordered pizza after school with a couple of friends and just sat in the school hallways and talked and laughed for hours. Many of the defining moments in growing up were shared with Cal such as going to my first high school dance, acting in my first school play, and many more. He had such a big and positive impact on mine and everyone who knew him’s life and was one of the most genuine, generous, and bright people I know.

Navah Eshraghi I can’t remember much of life before Caley. We’d been teasing each other since age six, jokes we continued to throw at each other playfully through senior year. We bonded in our discovery of theater in middle school, where he excelled both on stage and behind the scenes. Our group of friends was unstoppable, bubbly and bright-eyed, taking on high school together. Cal was the one who showed me my first Star Wars movie, the one who would proudly overdress with me to school dances and make me laugh at dinner. We tried a sport together, falling asleep in the backseat when we carpooled home. He was always mature and observant beyond his years, able to predict how loud I'd laugh at something or what face I'd make when he pulled out his camera. In another life, we would have been seated next to each other cracking jokes at graduation. I am grateful that my moments with him were ones that saw him at ease, smiling, radiating happiness. His eyes were that one-in-a-million type of vibrant and wise, always something brilliant happening behind them. May you rest peacefully Cal, thank you for all these years. Thank you to the Epstein family for so many memories and for all the times you welcomed a group of exuberant kids bouncing around your living room. Caley’s spirit will live on in all the hearts he touched. Our thoughts and prayers are with you infinitely at this difficult time. Navah Eshraghi and Family

Olivia Buist-Thuillier It has been a while since Cal and I have talked but in middle school, I saw him as an older brother and close friend. The only ever time I visited Oaks Park was with him and it’s one of my favorite memories. I scrolled back through our old text conversations a bit ago and I remembered that I used to tell him LLB. Love you Like a Brother. Cal was such an amazing person and always looked out for me. We drifted apart in high school but he will always be close to my heart as an incredible friend. I am so grateful to have had him in my life.

Sofia Garcia I’m glad I’ve got to know you and have you as my brother in one of the most important years of my life. I will never forget you Cal!

Tim Healy Sending our love to the entire Epstein family, Cal you were a kind soul and will be profoundly missed.

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Cal wanted some birthday action too

Brennan Kochanowski

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Cal did not always love pictures

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Overruled

Carol Baltazar Cal was one of those guys that could light up any room. I have so many great memories of all the random things we did in Spanish class, including our collective attempt at a “mannequin challenge” (FULL VIDEO: https://bit.ly/2JCOOdE). He will be dearly missed by all of us!

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Gaming with Grandma

Madelyn Wild Our most recent visit out to Portland. Brennan and Cal told us what to do for each photo so we followed their commands 😂

Madelyn Wild Glad we got to enjoy this hike with Cal, even if he did push me in...

Gabi Garcia Various rehearsal and work party shenanigans from 2016-17.

Tara Taggart I didn't have any close-up pictures of Cal, but I found this one of us working on lights for Theater. Zsoee and I were just lowly castmates and knew nothing about crew or stage tech, but Cal was always the type of person to invite you up to do the fancy stuff without judgement. We were way high up above the stage here, standing on metal grates you could see right through, all the way down to the tiny looking people moving across the stage below. I was initially terrified, but Cal confidently walked across the grates, cracking jokes and explaining how stuff worked, and showing us that it wasn't so scary after all. He never ceased to make me laugh and was always so confident and outgoing. It was always a fun surprise whenever I ran into him, and he made every situation a good time. He brought such a unique and fun energy to every situation. He will be dearly missed.

Judith Mickelson Some sweet memories of grandma days

Maija Tew Cal and I had our ups and downs in our friendship but we became really close in around march when quarantine was happening. We used to zoom or google duo for hours on end. We would talk and laugh and play games. One thing I hold especially close to my heart about Cal was that he was so giving. He used to bring me leftover donuts from the bakery at work at the end of the day because he knew I loved donuts so much. He never hesitated to help me in any way he could when I was feeling down. He would bring me dutch bros and we would talk at a distance from my driveway. We always went on such random adventures but he made everything fun. We could just drive around aimlessly and have an amazing time. I feel lucky to have been able to be so close with Cal before all of this and I miss him dearly. I send my love to his family as well. The last picture is when Cal fell asleep on a call with me 😂 I didn’t want to wake him up so I texted him goodnight and hung up. The dates range a lot. The first picture was from graduation when they were giving out free donuts to 2020 graduates at krispy kreme. We waited forever in line and didn’t even end up getting donuts but it was still so fun. The two google duo images are from earlier in November when we talked to catch up. I believe I met Cal in 2017.

Gabi Garcia Cal started an arm wrestling tournament at one Mary Poppins work party.

Madison Ford I attached the photo I took of Cal the day that I met him in freshman year. We became friends quickly, but that’s not unusual for him. He was the kind of person who could make new friends instantly, and I have always admired him for it. Cal was quick to accept new people as friends and always made sure everyone had a spot in conversation. He was honest and he was loyal. Rest in Peace Caley. I’ll miss you.

Gabi Garcia Cast party shenanigans - I believe this was after Mary Poppins my sophomore year.

Brennan Kochanowski a few years back we met up with the fam on the coast. cal tried these candies marketed as extremely sour. he always like eating really hot or sour things with an audience and it always made me laugh

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Happy 16th Birthday

Gabi Garcia A series of selfies Cal sent me on Snapchat - I think I'd asked him for a photo to post for his birthday.

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Enabling others' musical pursuits

Manon Vezinet Cal and I were friends my freshman year. We’ve been out of contact for a while, but this news has left a pit in my stomach. Cal was such a kind, thoughtful, amazing personality and I am so grateful to have had him in my life. The first time I came over I remember the overwhelming feeling of being welcome and accepted into the house- thank you to his family. May he Rest In Peace.

Maddi Moore Cal was one of my best friends for my freshman and sophomore year of high school. At the beginning of this year I reached out to him and we hung out and got boba tea. Unfortunately we lost contact and I never heard from him again. But I am so unbelievably sad to hear of his passing and I’ll miss him so much.

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Pre- Championship Swim Meet. The Hair!

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Championship Swim Meet

Brennan Kochanowski Cal at our annual camping trip. We’d all hike up to the top of the hill to watch the sunset.

Kenny Park I used to be very close with Cal back in my Sophomore to Junior year. We spent countless times together individually and with a small group me and a couple friends created that lasted those couple of years. We fell out of our friendship, I’m sure that in our immature high school minds there was some dramatic reason for it, but now I feel so pitted with guilt for not staying in touch with him. Cal was an extraordinarily caring, sensitive, and creative friend. He always ensured that other’s feelings were in check before his. I’ll never forget those times we spent together. He will be missed dearly.

Brennan Kochanowski We were glad we both had the faces we did

Audrey Paek For an extra credit ib physics project, Cal and I partnered up and carved this pumpkin together. It was so fun and a memory I will cherish! <3

Annika May Carlson Cal, you are already dearly missed. Although most of my time spent with you was at work, I will remember you as an amazing person that could cheer anyone up. Even a monotonous day watching the lap pool was fun when you were there. I remember getting Thai food with you and Jacey one afternoon after work and I wish we could do it again.

Audrey Paek This was back in junior year, when Cal brought me my favorite drink from taco bell. Such a considerate and giving friend. I miss him!

Laurie Barr Thanksgiving - getting ready to dig into Uncle Mark's triple chocolate cheesecake.

Gabi Garcia I was Cal's secret sibling for It's a Wonderful Life my senior year. I thought he'd recognize my handwriting, so I wrote everything in stickers. I put dog stickers on each of his cards (which were these mildly passive-aggressive postcards that I loved) just to annoy him. This last photo is of the flannel I got him as a closing night gift - I'd been texting Miles for help to make sure I didn't accidentally get him one he already had.

caroline getty SAC swim team was so much fun with Cal. He was always so happy and made everyone laugh. I can’t believe that he was taken so suddenly and that he is gone. Rest in peace Cal.

Gabi Garcia My only (recent) group photos with Cal - these are from the Oregon State Thespian Festival in 2018, the only time he got to go.

Isaac Vergun Cal is an absolute joy to be around, and would be an unwavering supportive friend when you needed him most. Rest east now

Emma Stanton Cal was an amazing person to lifeguard with. He made the long and hot summer days more enjoyable with his laugh and constant jokes. It was always clear that he had an amazing bond with all of the children at the club, and was able to provide them with the life skill of knowing how to swim. I am so beyond grateful to have had such an amazing person in my life, and will forever treasure all of the swim meets and summer practices we had with him.

Erica Chiotti Dear Cal, I didn’t get to have you in my class, but I sure did hear a lot about you from your dad, brother and mom...boy, do they love you! My favorite memory of you happened not too long ago. I saw you at an Arctic Monkeys concert and we had a hug and a nice, quick chat. Then, a few minutes later, you ran up to me again with Miles in tow. You knew that I would want to see him too, so you went to find him and tracked me down again. It was the best part of the whole concert for me. That is the kind of person you are, always thoughtful and giving to others. Thank you for warming my heart and making me smile. -Mrs. Chiotti

Karis Frazier cal and our friend had a dance off in 2018. he sure knew how to dance:)

b cabanos Happy 19th Birthday Cal- Your smiling face lit up a room and will forever be in our hearts- We honor your spirit today!

Brennan Kochanowski Ashley, Caley, and I at a high school mixer. Since we all went to neighboring high schools he was always just there. At shows, at parties, random places, Cal was there. I feel lucky to be able to look back and see him everywhere.

ashley epstein two years ago today. Cal, Grandma, Jacob, and I were walking around 23rd and Cal REFUSED to Jwalk and waited for every light

Kate Hanna We drove to Beaverton High School with Mr. Allen to get the Wells Fargo wagon for Music Man, so here's Cal riding said Wells Fargo wagon. Cal was such a kind soul who always made everyone feel welcome, and I miss him dearly.

ashley epstein Two years ago the Epstein’s brought Jacob and I along to disney land. Cal’s usually pretty hesitant to family photos on vacation but I like to think I helped force him into a few. Missing him more and more every day.

Jess Bigler this was from one of the first times cal and I hung out. We played cards against humanity and watched the sunset. I always loved spending time with cal and especially trying on his rings. I miss his smile, his hugs and his jokes the most. Happy birthday cal, love you and miss you lots.

Wendy Gibson Cal’s passing is deeply felt by the theatre department. He was so fun to work with, he was kind and incredibly talented! He was a fixture at every work party and a key part of the behind the scenes success. He will be dearly missed.

Rushali Desai Cal! You introduced me to so many new things and you made so many of my high school classes so much better. I really like this picture because everyone loved the lights on your minivan and it just was one of the things that made you who you were. you will be missed Cal and thank you for making the last 2 years of high school fun for me. with love, rushali

Jacob Epstein This moment was on our Disney land trip two years ago, Miles Ashley Cal and I shared a room. This moment we made up a word, that word was “chonky”. I really don’t know why we thought it was that hilarious but we were crying laughing for about ten minutes.

ashley epstein We took a disney trip and Cal was very committed to getting a good photo on each ride

ashley epstein cal’s favorite vegetarian wing place for his b day w the family

Emerson Brady i took this picture of ashley and caley a couple years ago at a decades themed westview/sunset mixer. although caley and i weren’t personally all that close, but being best friends with ashley and brennan i heard about him constantly. always funny stories about the good times they shared. the love they shared for cal was closer to a sibling bond than anything. i always admired how expressive he was with his sense of style (i mean look at his floral jacket in this picture) and photography. i regret not getting to know him better when i had the chance. you will be missed by more people than you know, caley.

Carey Pan Cal would always take his friends on adventures. He was the best prom date even if he got a flat tire on the way. I’m very thankful to have met him and to have had him in my life. We had a lot of laughs together and he was a big part of my high school years. He had a big heart and always cared for his friends.

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Caley was a really great photographer and enjoyed shooting concerts.

Madison Baldwin I met Cal sophomore year of high school at a theatre event. We quickly became friends, and I remember often video chatting with Cal and playing him songs on my guitar. He asked me to play him Particles by Nothing But Thieves, and to this day every time I hear that song I just think of him. I’m lucky to have met Cal. He was so talented, and he took the most beautiful pictures. His smile was so contagious, and he never failed to make me laugh. One of my first memories was going to Portland just to walk around and take photos, where I snapped a photo of him taking pictures of murals. One of my last memories with Cal was about a year ago when we went to the Docks at Omsi. It was so beautiful outside and I managed to snap a shot of him just looking off in the distance. Caley truly brought a light into everyone’s lives. I will cherish my friendship with Cal forever.

Lauren Kochanowski Cal being a good sport while Rob teases him (though to be fair, Cal was the instigator in this situation and was loving the role). (Family opening presents on Christmas Eve)

Laurie Barr Our last family Christmas together. We missed you today, Caley. 💔

Judith Mickelson What I loved most about my second grandson, Caley, was his empathy and caring for others. Caley was a wonderful teacher and a kind hearted friend. Cal's sense of humor and his giggle always melted my heart . From baby to boy to young man to teenager and to boy/man , Cal was loved so greatly by all of us. His creativity and his wide range of interests, and his love of theater and music always endeared him to me. With his cousins, my grands, we always had "grandma days" and these ranged from silly to hysterical to hysterics!, but was always the 5 of us, and I loved my special times with them. Cal would often lead as to where and what we'd do, and sometimes he could be a little bossy, but we always laughed and giggled and loved being together. I'll put up a few more fav photos. I'll miss Caley every day of my life. He is gone too soon.

Phoebe Frank Cal was a kind person and a great friend. We met through our friend Karmella and the three of us would often go on silly little adventures together (usually to michaels craft store or dutch bros) I’ll miss hiding from the paparazzi(karmella) with him. He was taken from us far far far too soon and I am deeply sorry for your loss as a family❤️

Jamie Murphy Cal and I went to Bonny slope together, but we didn’t officially become friends until about sophomore year. We was unlike anyone I know; he had a great sense of humor and had a way to make you feel welcome and happy. I would go to his house after school to study, but we’d eventually get bored so we’d go upstairs to watch a movie or play video games. He would pick me up in his minivan to go to Dutch or Target while playing me some music he wanted to show me. We planned to hang out over break since we hadn’t seen each other in a while. I hope he is having a wonderful birthday. He truly was my good friend and I will miss him dearly. My hearts go out to the whole Epstein family.

Erin Murphy Went to a graveyard w Cal after going to Krispy Kreme to overlook the woods/little neighborhoods, talked about life and where we were headed and wanted to go. One of the last times I saw him before school started. Happy birthday :)

Katie Quillin Our hearts are broken by the untimely loss of Caley. This little band of brothers spent years growing up together - in school, camping and even a brief stint in wrestling as this picture proves. The official wrestling did not last too long, but the boys had fun. And there were good stories from the experience. We will always remember Caley's warm smile and care-filled way. We love you.

Jennifer & Jon Epstein We have been fortunate to receive many pics and stories directly from Cal’s friends. This is only of my favorites. When the pandemic hit, Cal decided to move forward with getting an earring, something he had wanted for a long time. But everything was closed and he could not go to the mall to get it done. Not to be deterred, Cal decided to take matters in is own hands, and do it himself at home. In true Caley fashion, he solicited the advice of his friends (ice your earlobe, sterilize the safety pin, etc.), and live-streamed the event. Warning: Stop here if you get squeamish.... as the story goes, Cal got the pin half way through his ear, but could not get it all the way through. So he went to find his brother Miles to get his help. Miles perhaps gave some support, but Cal ended up finishing the job himself. One of his friends shared this picture of the live-stream with me, and I laugh each time I look at it... the safety pin still in his ear, Cal’s ‘oh s#%@’ look, Miles in the background. I am glad they captured this moment and shared it with me. Thank you for the memory.

Maija Tew Cal and I shared a love of sour candy and I remember him buying this and rubbing it in my face to tease me but of course, being the giving person he was, he always shared with me. This picture never fails to make me smile.

Jennifer & Jon Epstein This is Cal’s dorm at UHM in September. He didn’t send me many pix, but I know he was so excited to have his own place because he sent me this one. Caley we miss you. Dad

Bronson Asam-Balicanta Happy Birthday Cal! 🎈🎁 I know Kamiko misses you so much. these are some pics of Kamiko he sent to me last year as he did a little photo shoot with her. (Cat content)

Aliyah Taylor-Hershel To be one of Cal's teachers was an absolute gift. I'd like to think fourth grade was one of the best, and Amber is right- Jon was still battling those elastic cuffed sweats but my focus was on this really smart, not to be fooled, quiet leader. Cal was not interested in my "show your work, tell me how you know" shenanigans, especially in math. And what I quickly learned was that he had far more important things to teach me, other than the strategies he used to solve a problem. Yesterday, Cal's second grade teacher described Cal as "wise beyond his years"... no truer words could be spoken. Cal was a talented photographer and passionate about music, creative, clever and had the BEST SMILE! Thank you for letting me be your teacher Cal, thank you for letting me be in your corner. Forever blessed.

Bitsy Parks I was so lucky to be Caley’s first grade teacher. It was a fun year of teaching and he fit right into the fun. Caley was fun, smart, creative and caring. He went along with my songs and jokes and enjoyed the school environment. After he graduated from Bonny Slope, I enjoyed running into Caley around the community and always appreciated that he would graciously agree with me when I reminded him “we had so much fun in first grade together!” One of the last times that I saw Caley was a couple of years ago at an evening event at Sunset HS. I barely recognized him and Miles and when we chatted I was struck by both of them - they were so genuine, so handsome, so poised and well-mannered. Although it wasn’t a surprise that they had all these traits, it was still a highlight of that evening. I cherish my memories of Caley as an adorable first grader and as a charming young man. I’m so sad that I won’t have more opportunities to run into him and catch up.❤️

Jennifer & Jon Epstein Caley, you left us way too soon. We love you. Mom & Dad & Miles

Kylee Sommer It’s been a long time since I’ve talked to Cal. The pictures you see are at least 3 years old, but they’ve still managed to make me laugh. The first picture is Cal with my dog, who is known for sticking his tongue out. Cal decided to join him. Regardless of what he was going through, Cal was CONSTANTLY in a mood to make SOMEBODY laugh. In senior year stats class, the last thing I said to him before the quarantine was, “Cal, those heelys are bad*ss!” And I think, more than anything, those are the words I’ll remember him with. We miss you Cal, all of us.

Bob Garcia Random assortment of memories captured over the years with Caley. You left us too soon.

Kathryn Welsh Well, the scanned Christmas letter from way back when came through upside down but I can't tell you how odd it is that I found it (circa 2008/2009?). I remember Caley as such a bright spot in each day - usually smiling but also many times thinking pensively about something deep it seemed. While these memories are from preschool era, they are not easily erased or forgotten. My prayers to all of you. Kathryn

LJ Whipple So many adventures and memories with Caley... Camping, floating on the river, dinners, magic tournaments, rafting and birthday parties. Our biggest memories of Caley were the birthday parties for my son, Spencer, and a few other friends at the beach. He was head of the games and entertainment, organizing magic tournaments, writing and performing plays and keeping the fun moving. In between all the fun events planned, he always took time for a one on one walk/talk with Spencer. I loved that Cal would include Spencer's younger brother in the fun too. It is still hard to believe.... Sending love and strength to Jon, Jen, Miles and the whole family. Caley is missed and loved. ❤️ LJ

Bonnie Davis Jen, Jon and Miles - our hearts are with you always. I am here for you as you travel this road that no parent should have to walk. We will never forget you, Caley. You will forever be Jeremy's best friend. The childhood friend who lived up the street, rode the bus to school, spent countless afternoons at each other's houses. Nerf wars and birthday parties. Trick-or-treating and sledding. And as you got older, video games, MTG, skiing and boating, beach weekends. Camps at Yellowstone and Monterey, parties and concerts. I'm so glad Jeremy will have all of these memories of you - you were always the life of the party. Your memory is a blessing to all who knew you.

Madison Ford It feels so surreal that he’s gone. I have so many memories of him, and all of them feel amazing to reflect on. He was such an amazing friend to have. He was the star of each conversation or hangout, and the peak of comedy. He never failed to make me laugh, even about the most ridiculous things. It was just the way he said things I suppose, his tone of voice and the pure personality in each sentence. I really miss it now, because no one speaks with as much honesty and humor as he did.

Heidi Bohrer I had the good fortune of being Cal’s Lit & Comp 12 teacher last year. I was just devastated to hear news of his passing and wanted to share my sincere condolences. Cal was an absolute joy to teach - sarcastic, kind, clever, and wow what a good writer. I have been teaching a long time but last year was my first year at Sunset and I hadn’t taught Seniors at all for about 5 years. I was a bit anxious to start - but Cal was one reason I very quickly grew to love that group. He was often one of the first to come into the room and so we’d exchange a few jokes or just say hello daily. I also often bought Dum Dum lollipops for his class and we’d express faux outrage at each others’ lollipop preferences. (He liked the root beer ones - one of the few things we disagreed on.) His intellect and maturity blew me away, but it’s the funny moments I think of first when remembering him. I can recall one specific day when Cal and a friend were dismayed to find out I had run out of lollipops. Before class started, they changed my message board (which had displayed a quote from “Under Pressure” when they walked in) to the attached pic and new message. I could not stop laughing. What an incredible wit. I will never forget Cal. I’m a better teacher for having worked with him. Sincerely, Heidi Bohrer

Jennifer & Jon Epstein We are missing Cal today, on his 19th bday. Cal’s birthday is just one day after his cousin Lauren’s birthday AND his cousin Jacob’s birthday. Jen’s birthday was two days ago. Normally we would all celebrate together. We will gather this year too, but Caley will be profoundly missed. Happy Birthday to our boy— we love you and miss you! ❤️❤️❤️

Maddi Moore Happy Birthday Cal!! I miss you so much.

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